Some women wake up thinking how beautiful it would be to have their handsome husband wrap his loving arms around her, kiss her gently on the forehead, and be told how beautiful she is every day. The problem is that wanting that kind of love is not enough.

If you would like to meet and have a loving relationship with a strong and brave man, who allows you to feel safe, loved and appreciated, there are some things you can start doing now, long before you meet him. .

Here are 5 things that must exist within you to find lifelong love and collaboration.

1. Open your heart to men and share your vulnerability.

Susan Jeffers wrote a great book called Opening our hearts to men. YesWrite about how when you open your heart to men, you will see that they also suffer, have fears and suffer their struggles. So, maybe it’s time to change the way you see and look at men.

Changing your way of thinking and choosing from a place of love to see the good in men. TO study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology supports that by choosing to see men in a positive light, you will indeed attract a man who deserves your love and joy. She talks about letting go of all that pent-up anger and frustration you have with men. Letting go of pain and anger makes a difference.

2. Choose to heal

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Choosing to heal can be scary, but it is also the most satisfying and rewarding act of self-love you can do. It’s painful to face the emotional pull that keeps you stuck. repeated dating patterns the same guy over and over again. It can feel like a constant battle with your inner demons.

Choose to be aware, release, heal and have a big cry. Research by Marjaneh M Fooladi, Ph.D. sample how crying is healing. Only by releasing this negative energy that is pent up within you and choosing to step forward can powerful change occur. Healing is progress and can be the definitive change.

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3. Give love to receive love

Oh, life is so beautiful, especially the way the outside world reflects back to us who we are deep down. Our Habits create our reality..

My friend Ann is the person to turn to when you need a hug, a pick-me-up, or just an ear to listen. She is wonderful at this and because of these traits, her life is full of love. Her husband and children love her very much and their family life tends to be harmonious.

The good news is that you can cultivate these traits too. If you want a man who tells you, “I love you every day,” you need to learn to get comfortable with words. You can start by saying to yourself every morning and night in front of the mirror: “I love you.”

Do this until your inner child has a big smile. Once you feel comfortable giving the words to yourself, you will also feel comfortable giving and receiving them from someone else, as will you. explored by Dr. Rebecca Hazleden. And that is an exhilarating feeling.

4. Face your fears

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“Do what you fear and the death of fear will be certain.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Fear can have a great impact on our lives. It can dictate how our lives turn out. Therefore, the death of fear is essential. Fear of commitment, fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough. What’s stopping you?

A article in the Journal of Cognitive Research and Therapy encourages we hereChoosing to let go, working with our partner to overcome our biggest fear, or finding a close friend who can help us navigate into a space where we can attract someone special into our life. He will also want to be a part of it, share his worries and concerns and see how this can bring you closer together.

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5. Power of self-love

An act of kindness because you care, a bubble bath because you can, telling the man in your life “I love you so much” because you mean it. Ask gracefully for what you want, say “No” to what doesn’t serve you, and share a secret that no one else knows about you except you and him. Are they all acts of self-love and enormously attractive quality to the man of your desires? Love yourself and share it with everyone.

Handsome is how handsome he is, and life gives you what you give it. So remember to heal the past, face your fears, open your heart, act from a place of self-love, and choose to share your life with others. I promise you that you will be richly rewarded. And that handsome man hugging you may not be as far away as you first thought.

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Lorna Poole He is an international coach and professional speaker. She empowers women to love beyond fear, pain, and regret to attract the partner they truly deserve.