Dear Abby: I have an open relationship with my partner. We both enjoy interacting with other people, but only if we agree with the person. Everything was going great; I still have my alone time with my partner. But now it seems that instead of making love to just me, the only time he wants to touch me is if someone else comes over. What is the best way to approach it? Should I suggest that we stop inviting people over for that kind of fun?

—Adventurous lady

Dear Madam: Your partner seems to have lost interest in one-on-one intimacy. If that’s the case, you need him to take charge so you can adjust your life accordingly. Healthy relationships, open or closed, involve honest communication. If you are unhappy with the way your relationship has developed, you have every right to say so.

Dear Abby: I am 58 years old and a recovering addict. I used drugs and alcohol for over 30 years and have now been clean for 20 months, thank God. During my addiction, I had a friend who was my strong support. I always considered him a friend, as he was there when I was actively addicted.

Now that I’m clean, he wants to take a step forward and move from friends to a relationship. Yes, I care about him, but he wants to get married without first meeting the real me. He is a hard worker who doesn’t drink or smoke. He just works and comes home. He’s just the kind of man I was looking for. Please advise me on what I should do.

— Clean and sober in Florida

Dear Clean and Sober: Your statement that this man wants to get married without first knowing his true self (I assume you mean sober) speaks volumes to me. It tells me that you are making mature judgments, for which I congratulate you. He may be just the guy you’re looking for, but hold off on marriage until you’re sure he knows and can accept your new sobriety.