Dear Abby: Am I crazy for maintaining ties with my ex who cheated on me?

DEAR ABBY: My wife of 15 years cheated on me with a man 20 years older than her. I never winked at another woman. We are divorced now, but I know we still love each other. She calls me from her new house in the middle of the night when she is scared even though she plans to marry him. She knows I’m the love of her life. Am I crazy for persisting? I can’t help it but I still love her. Is she just using me? Is there any hope? — IN LIMBO IN IDAHO

BEST IN LIMBO: The divorce is final. That she plans to marry the man she cheated on should be a strong message, and it’s not like she still loves you. If she gets scared in the middle of the night, remind her that she now has a fiancé to protect her. Then change your number.

Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.