He orders for you and you feel special and cared for. He walks along the outside of the street as you walk towards the restaurant. It oozes chemistry.

He will touch you a lot, or if you are not one to make public displays of affection, he will quickly notice and please you. Charming is his middle name. It wouldn’t be surprising if he brought you a gift. Sounds a lot like the perfect guy, right?

I know and that’s what’s scary. So is there a way to know how to spot a narcissist on the first date without him breaking your heart in the end?

Here are ten signs that you are on a date with a very narcissistic man:

1. He always makes the conversation about him.

The narcissist cannot help but bring the attention back to himself in the conversation. No matter what you’re talking about, he’ll take the first opportunity to talk about his own experiences.

On a first date, this is lovely because he is charismatic and fun. You may feel a little hurt that he isn’t curious about you, but you can ignore it because you don’t want to hurt his feelings. Please note, that 2010 investigation confirms that a narcissist often seems charming at first.

RELATED: A narcissist’s biggest revelation, according to research

2. He doesn’t show real interest in you

Prostock-studio / Shutterstock

At the end of the night, is there anything he knows about you? Did you hear stories from childhood to the present day? Did he talk to you about travel, pets and politics? Were you obsessed with wine tasting, sports, or cars? If you feel a little abandoned on the first date, don’t dismiss it.

3. He is impatient and entitled

Watch to see how it handles delays and interference. If your table is not ready or the waiter is not paying attention, a narcissist has an attack. Complaints and accusations of bad service and bad tips These are all how to spot a narcissist on the first date.

4. He is picky about where you sit.

Your date may be very picky about where the restaurant seats you. You’ll want a table in a prominent location and certainly not near the kitchen or in a back corner. Narcissists see themselves as special and deserving of admiration and recognition, and they expect special treatment to go along with it.

RELATED: 12 Little Signs That The Guy You’re Dating Is A Toxic Asshole

5. He makes you feel special so he can get something from you.

cottonbro studio / Pexels

When a narcissist is interested in something you have and feels that you can satisfy one of their needs, they will care about you. They are experts at making you feel special; From placing orders for you at the restaurant to taking care of you when you walk in traffic, they will surprise you with their attention. It’s about satisfying his hunger for money, control, or intimacy that motivates his affection for you.

6. Demands your full attention.

Narcissists do not do well when someone or something else distracts them. He may be sarcastic and make fun of you for the time you spend on your cell phone or the time you spend talking about your day. Expert at hijacking the conversation, it won’t take long for him to talk about himself again. he loves being the center of attention.

7. He has social knowledge

Your date can be charming and sociable with the waiters and other diner customers, as long as they provide you with attention and excellent service. You may have strong social skills and engage in conversations with others easily.

But if you look and listen, you will see that they are a new audience to listen to their stories and laugh at their jokes. Even though it may seem like he’s reaching out to others, it’s all about him.

RELATED: 8 Hard to Hear Signs He’s Only Using You

8. Criticize everything

Hear a litany of complaints about your life, work, living situation or anything you talk about. Narcissists continually find fault. Research from Harvard University confirms that complaining is really bad for your brain.

They go crazy over anything they perceive as an inconvenience. You might run a red light because you think it’s been red too long and you’re tired of the city government controlling your traffic flow. (True story!)

9. He flaunts how much money and time he spends on you.

Manic about feeling appreciated and upset when he feels fired, your date may make sure you know how expensive the dinner was and how much trouble he went through getting reservations or some other veiled complaint about all the trouble he had… just for you. However, no matter how grateful you are, you never feel like he believes it.

10. You have catastrophic chemistry

A classic sign of narcissism is intimate charm and chemistry. According New Republic Jeffrey Kluger“Men who score high on narcissism, thrill-seeking, or exploitation (not to mention those who score high on all of them, which some do) also tend to outperform other men in several intimate encounters in any given week, month or year.”

Good girls are inexplicably attracted to bad boys. The hotter the chemistry, the faster you must flee. If your date has any of these tendencies, he or she may be within the normal range of narcissism, which means you can handle this challenge with humor and clear boundaries. But if warning signs sound, respect them.

Move slowly and get to know this guy. Examine it as if your life depends on it, because one day it may. If in doubt, continue before moving.

Bad boys are attractive and exciting. Adding toxic narcissism to the mix can create a trap that an aroused woman can easily fall into. Make sure you have a friend or family member who you can trust and be honest about this guy. Take your time and get to know him before you get too involved.

If you think you may be experiencing depression or anxiety as a result of ongoing emotional abuse at the hands of a narcissist, you are not alone. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone and is not a reflection of who you are or anything you have done wrong. If you feel you may be in danger, support is available 24/7/365 through the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you cannot speak safely, text LOVEIS to 1-866-331-9474.

RELATED: 20 Extremely Brutal Signs You’re in Love with a Narcissist

Catherine Behan is a highly skilled dating coach, freelance writer, and editor. He currently works as a Law of Attraction and Success Coach, where he leverages his experience in EFT to help people attract abundance into their lives.