A man is drawing a line when it comes to take care of children his nieces and nephew, and his sister is not happy about it.

The 29-year-old took to Reddit. Am I forum A——? to discuss a family dispute, asking other Redditors if he’s wrong for refusing to babysit his sister’s kids after she previously canceled a babysitting job for him at the last minute.

“So, my sister (29M) (32F) has three kids (10, 7, 5). “Last month, she asked me if I could see them for a weekend while she and her husband took a short anniversary trip,” she explained. “I agreed because I love my nieces and nephews, but I made it clear that I needed at least two weeks’ notice because I work long hours and would have to rearrange my schedule.”

She later clarified that she also “asked my boss for time off, cleared my weekend, and stocked my house with everything the kids would need” in preparation for their stay.

“Friday afternoon is coming up and I’m waiting for her to drop them off,” he continued. “Suddenly, I get a message from her saying they are not coming. She decided at the last minute that they were going to a family resort and didn’t need me to keep an eye on them anymore. No apology, just: “We’ll do it another time.” ”

“I felt frustrated because I had completely cleared my weekend, rejected plans with friends, and rearranged my work schedule for this,” he shared. “I responded by telling him it wasn’t right to cancel on me like that at the last minute, especially when I did everything I could to help.”

The man then shared that his sister approached him again two days later to ask if he could babysit the following weekend.

“Apparently, something came up with his original plan and he needed someone to keep an eye on them after all. “I told him no, I wasn’t available,” he wrote.

However, his sister was not happy and his parents also apparently expressed their displeasure at his decision to say he was unavailable.

“She got upset and said I was being selfish and punishing her children for something that wasn’t their fault,” he wrote. “Now she’s mad at me and my parents say I should be more understanding because ‘things come up when you’re a parent.’ ”

“I don’t have kids, but I feel like it’s basic respect to not cancel on someone at the last minute and then expect them to be available whenever you want,” he concluded, while asking others if he’s the “s——” for set this limit.

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Redditors came out in droves to the man’s defense, with one writing that the family should respect and appreciate his clear boundary.

“If someone is willing to take care of my child but politely express their boundaries like this, I’m all for it,” the commenter wrote. “Great, I’m so glad you can babysit. I’ll keep you informed and respect your scheduling needs.”

Another commenter brought up the fact that the sister’s “change of plans” was entirely avoidable, arguing that her behavior shows a lack of appreciation for her brother’s efforts.

“Sister just changed her mind about not bringing the kids,” they wrote. “If there was some kind of emergency or something, then OP (the original poster) should be a little understanding, although that doesn’t mean it’s necessary.” to make time where you don’t have it. But that’s not what happened; what happened was that her sister showed a complete lack of concern and gratitude for OP’s efforts, so OP is right to refrain from making such efforts in the future if she doesn’t find it worthwhile.”

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Another commenter shared that as a person without children, they completely relate to the original poster’s dilemma and recommend that you talk to your family about your current expectations.

“Sometimes people with children tend to think that people without this responsibility have no life or any other commitment,” the commenter began. “I had to talk to my family recently about this. They were assuming that I was available at the last minute to put my life aside and go for weeks at a time to help my sister and her son or take care of my parents’ house while they were away or go to my brother’s house to take care of take care of your dog for a week, etc.”

“I sat them down and explained how disrespectful it was to put myself in situations where either I was the idiot for saying no to helping the family,” they concluded, “…or I was the one who abandoned all my plans to help. Either way , I felt miserable.”