• A woman on Reddit is furious at her fiancé for allowing her future brother-in-law to say “dibs” on a wedding venue she “fell in love with” when he wasn’t even engaged to his girlfriend at the time
• Even though the woman’s “heart was set” on the spot, she claims her fiancé refuses to believe her brother “took it from her” and will not “defend” her or try to understand her side.
• “It makes me angry that my fiancé doesn’t defend me and call me crazy, or see my side of the story, and it seems to me that he chose his brother’s happiness over mine,” she shared.

a woman in reddit She is furious with her fiancé for choosing her brother’s happiness over hers.

In a post on the platform “Am I the A——?” In the forum, the user shared that she is considering whether she is wrong to “give such importance” to wanting to get married in a place where her future brother-in-law has a “duty.”

The advertiser, who had been engaged for 11 months, explained that she “fell in love” with a wedding venue during a family trip.

“I told my fiancé out loud that we should watch it,” she wrote. “The brother-in-law heard me say this, then he called my fiancé aside and told him that his girlfriend wanted to get married there and if we could get married there after them.”

The bride-to-be did not find out about this conversation from her fiancé until several weeks later, when she emailed the venue. After explaining her brother’s request, he told her she could proceed if she “really wanted to,” but said it in a way that suggested it “wasn’t really an option.”

The poster also noted that at the time of the trip, her fiancé’s brother was not yet engaged to his girlfriend, who had allegedly wanted to get married at the location in question since she was 12 years old.

“I think my life with my fiancé is separate from his family. We are our own unit with few overlapping friends,” the woman wrote. “Also, after that comment, it wasn’t really a question of whether I could use the place or not, but rather whether I could have it after them. So I had to wait until their wedding and another year in between, at least because the family lives in abroad and cannot take big trips like this twice a year due to time and money reasons.

Even though the woman’s “heart was set on” the spot, her fiancé thinks she’s “crazy” to believe her brother “took it from her.” That’s the biggest problem for the poster: that her fiancé refuses to “defend her” or even try to understand her side.

Instead of explaining to his brother why his fiancée might be upset about the situation, he essentially told him, “I don’t agree with my fiancée and she’s crazy to be mad because I promised you you could get married there first.”

The conclusion for the woman is: “Now I am angry because my fiancé does not defend me and call me crazy, nor see my side of the events, and to me it seems that he chose his brother’s happiness over mine. So my fiancé is “Angry at me for making a big deal out of this when he said it was his place first.”

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Most Reddit users said the poster was right, but also commented that her future husband could be using the situation as a way to cancel the wedding.

“Honestly, my boyfriend doesn’t want to marry you and is trying to find a way out,” someone commented in part. “I wouldn’t waste time waiting two to four years or more for an engagement and wedding that may not even happen. You don’t put your life on hold for someone who isn’t even engaged yet.”

“Did he give his dream venue to his brother because his girlfriend might want it one day? Looks like your fiancé is planning a wedding for everyone but you,” one Redditor wrote, with another adding: “I wouldn’t even waste time planning a wedding.” wedding with this boy It seems like he doesn’t want to get married and is blaming his brother.”