When a relationship is ending, you know it. The intense chemistry you once had with your partner has changed and you spend more time not talking than talking. Not bad, but certainly not good either.

Have you ever stayed in a relationship just for the stuff? Staying for those things is a common choice, and the examples above are true stories of why people choose to stay in a relationship. Are you in a stay or go situation? Would you like a stroke of psychic wisdom to let you know what to do next and what kind of effects divorce could have on you?

Here are 5 tough questions that will change the trajectory of your divorce:

1. Do you have any chemistry left?

If the chemistry is gone, how do you feel about it? Do you miss having intimacy? According to a 2018 study15% of marriages unfortunately lack true intimacy.

Believe it or not, some people don’t miss intimacy. You may find it hard to believe, but in today’s marriages all kinds of compromises work.

If chemistry is dead, are there other valuable assets in the relationship? Is your partner open to you exploring your satisfaction elsewhere? Can you talk about it?

Lack of chemistry and intimacy does not automatically disqualify your man. There are also things you can do to regain passion in a relationship that feels dead.

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2. Are you sociable?

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If you and your man They have many shared interests and enjoy doing things together, that is of tremendous value. Having a partner who likes to spend time with you may not be the same as having hectic intimacy every night, but for many people it’s enough.

According to data from the Pew Research Center64% of married Americans believe that having shared interests is very important to a successful marriage.

Look for signs of companionship with your current partner. List the things you enjoy doing together. If some of your interests are latent, awaken them!

See if you still enjoy their company while doing the things you did at the beginning of your relationship. If you don’t enjoy being together, then it could be a sign that things are not going well in your relationship and you may need to address it.

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3. Are you at home at home?

Yeah you feel comfortable in your environment and you are free to express yourself at home with music, art and food, you have something very valuable. Some tell me they are bored because there aren’t enough fireworks or excitement. Feeling comfortable in a relationship may even be healthy for you, with 2017 research finding that people in secure relationships have a lower risk of heart disease.

I get it, but you can always take skydiving lessons or an improv class if you want to get your adrenaline pumping.

Be very careful with what you define as boring. Living in peace with another person can be extremely satisfying when you free that person from having the responsibility of supplying you with the juice that makes your heart beat. Having peace with your partner can really bring passion into your life.

4. Do you have passion?

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Oh really. what is your passion Out of romance? Do you have any charities you support? Have a passion, Research from Harvard University confirms this.It can help increase motivation, improve concentration and make your life happier.

My husband volunteers with the cats at the shelter, socializing the kittens and preparing them for adoption. Many others find a lot of pleasure and love in animals because they are often much easier to love than people!

You need passion. Before leaving your relationship, work on finding a passion outside of your current interests. Pour yourself into something that feeds your soul.

What hobby did you enjoy 20 years ago? Why did you resign? Chances are, your partner is feeling the stress that you need him to be everything to you.

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5. How much do you have to lose?

This is a serious issue and sometimes the loss of material is considerable. When I got divorced, a friend told me, “I could never do what you’re doing. I’d lose too much.”

Sometimes things in life keep you there longer than they should. No one can tell you how happy you are or how happy you should be.

All I can tell you is that when you approach 50, you should be very careful before moving forward. If you live comfortably, have companionship, and have a reasonably good communication system, there’s just one more thing you need to know in order to stay… at least for now. 2018 research confirms that people can lose a lot in divorce, such as wealth, a shared social network, and even residential ties.

If you and your partner are considering separating, it is serious for both of you. The only ingredient that I think you have to have for it to work is collaboration.

Webster defines collaboration as “the act of working with another on a joint project.” Without collaboration, there is no little chance of your relationship lasting.

You have a joint project, whether you like it or not. The joint project is your partner, as you define it. Review the five keys and make an appointment with yourself to seriously consider your current situation. If you still want to co-create something that works with your partner, recommit to letting them know.

If necessary, talk to a coach, mentor, pastor, or a good friend. Make a plan for how to convince your partner that creating a collaborative effort to revive your fiery relationship is your number one priority, and then act on that plan.

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Catherine Behan is a highly skilled dating coach, freelance writer, and editor. He currently works as a Law of Attraction and Success Coach, where he leverages his experience in EFT to help people attract abundance into their lives.