Past trauma is affecting your relationship? Here’s what you can do

Childhood trauma can often lead to a constant feeling of stress, anxiety, mental health issues and fear, which can negatively impact your relationship with your loved ones. Unresolved trauma can damage communication, intimacy, and trust in our relationships. That is why it is important to process the trauma in time, feel comfortable in your body and experience love, because feeling safe in your body allows you to connect with others.

Some common signs that your past trauma is affecting your bond with your partner include a lack of trust, unrealistic expectations, a negative attitude, defensiveness, overthinking, insecurity, and neediness.

Are you the one feeling this way in your current relationship? You don’t have to worry because we are here to help you. Here we have mentioned a few tips that can help you if your trauma is affecting your bond. Take a look:

Communicate

Healthy communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Communicate openly, honestly, and compassionately with your partner and share everything about your past traumas. Pay attention to the way you express your emotions and frustrations.

Set boundaries

Talk to each other and set healthy boundaries that respect each other’s needs and boundaries. Understand clear boundaries and help promote trust and security in a relationship.

Understand triggers

If your partner has opened up to you about past trauma, gather knowledge about the effects of that trauma and educate yourself. Understanding their experiences can help you identify potential trigger points in your partner and develop strategies to manage them. This can prevent several arguments in your relationship.

Seek therapy

Seeking therapy can be one of the effective ways to get over past traumas. Whether as an individual or as a couple, seeking the advice of an experienced therapist can provide essential skills and insights to heal and grow together.

You don’t have to rush

There’s no need to rush. Since we are dealing with mental trauma, it is important that you take it one step at a time. Remember that everyone heals at their own pace and in their own way. Take a short break from your work and social life, go on a trip or do activities that make you happy.

Past traumas can cause distance, misunderstandings, lack of communication and conflict, ultimately leading to a breakup.